Growing up in my family there was a saying that I heard repeatedly, “What happens in this house stays in this house!” Perhaps, you may have heard
those words in your home too. My family was very careful to never let their “dirty laundry” be exposed. Keeping their dirty laundry private shielded them from the possible judgement and rejection from their family and peers. When I heard those words I knew that I needed to keep my mouth shut.
When Greg Jr. was a young child he routinely woke up terrified in the middle of the night saying there were monsters under his bed or … in his closet. Consequently, my wife Lynn or I would get out of bed, go to his room, turn on the lights, and reassure him that there were no monsters and that everything would be okay.
Life often presents obstacles and situations that often feel too large to take on. It is not uncommon to react out of fear. When Lynn and I found out that our son Greg Jr. was gay we were both overwhelmed with fear. We were afraid of the potential diseases he might contract, the hate crimes he might endure, and what our family and friends would think of him and us if they knew the truth. However, the fear that kept us awake at night was that Greg might lose his faith and ultimately his salvation. Our fears left us paralyzed. We simply did not know how to respond to having a gay son.